Jealousy and Love Between Sisters | {THE AND} Sydney & Amanda

  • Published on Sep 5, 2018
  • Sydney & Amanda, sisters for 20 years, are the most important people in each other’s lives, but still want to push the boundaries of their intimacy and understanding. Amanda makes a stark admission about how she feels regarding Sydney’s place in their family, and Sydney offers some insightful advice about the pain from her sister’s first love.
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Comments • 161

  • WIG
    WIG Month ago

    the jealousy question I really felt and even tho I hate to admit it I’m jealous of my little sister because I’ve always felt like she was more beautiful than me and the attention would always go to her instead of me. she always gets her way and I never do. but I’m trying my best to work on it and work on myself.

  • A Born Leader
    A Born Leader Month ago

    Wow the beauty here is astonishing

  • FZ B6
    FZ B6 Month ago

    I have an older sister..2,5 years older. I had such a hate love relationship with her but as we matured that has changed completely and the hate is gone and I honestly love her now and can say she's my best friend and I'm her best friend and we can always count on each other. She's the only one in my family that I have such a deep bound with. I have two older brothers but there's nothing there..we're not close. I sometimes pity that and wish I had a closer bound with my brothers.

  • Olta I
    Olta I Month ago +2

    1:14 she didn't say it back :(
    Edit: 8:56 lol nvm she said it :D

  • Hey there I'm Irie
    Hey there I'm Irie 2 months ago

    Cryin in the club

  • Amanda Athanas
    Amanda Athanas 2 months ago

    The sister on the right is prettier, younger, more confident and more successful. The sister on the left has low self-esteem and depression, so she probably blames the younger sister for her less successful life. But if the older sister had the RIGHT mindset, she could accomplish a lot and feel good about herself. She isn’t ugly, just less attractive. Sisters that are close in age have more rivalry. Females in general compete (mostly for male attention). So female siblings close in age are bound to have some tension, UNLESS they have the right mindset. There are enough men to go around so that both sisters can be in a relationship. The younger sister, having a relationship, does not take away from the older sister’s ability to have a relationship also. Interestingly, TWIN sisters don’t usually have a big jealousy problem. But sisters often do. Maybe it’s because twins are so alike that they see each other as more of a “copy of themselves” rather than competition? Also the fact that they are twins gives the impression that everything between them is equally distributed, and therefore everything in both of their futures will be equal (even if it doesn’t really turn out that way).
    Obviously the older sister is the more dysfunctional one with the emotional and psychological problems and that creates most of the tension in their relationship, and it probably mostly stems from her jealousy of her younger sister. If the older sister was able to fix her stinking thinking, then their relationship would get better. there really isn’t anything that the younger sister can do to improve their relationship anymore than she already has. The homework is in the lap of the older sister. It is not the younger sister’s fault that she is younger or that she is prettier or that she is more successful. Luckily, the older sister has not been extremely toxic to her younger sister, yet. They are still young, so over time, if the older sister does not deal with her internal demons, her depression and her attitude will only get more toxic towards her younger sister. Hopefully the younger sister will not be a doormat and blinded by her love for her older sister and allow her older sister’s toxicity to damage her in any way. The younger sister needs to be able to separate herself from her toxic jealous older sister, if the need arises.

  • ez101 tube
    ez101 tube 2 months ago

    Jealous with sister no way

  • tapilaha
    tapilaha 2 months ago

  • Camille Karlson
    Camille Karlson 3 months ago +1

    My sister is 6 years younger than me and we are complete opposites. But i would do anything for her.

    • sey Lawiet
      sey Lawiet Month ago +1

      Camille Karlson omg same💕

  • Jay Kay
    Jay Kay 3 months ago

    Is this me and my sis? It's exactly us

  • Joy Mark
    Joy Mark 3 months ago

    This makes me tear up, my sister hates me so much 💔💔💔

  • Heather U.
    Heather U. 3 months ago

    They’re so damn cute 😭💛 I’ve always wished for a closer relationship w my sister but she’s not an open person so it’s so damn hard to talk to her

  • Moe lester
    Moe lester 3 months ago +2

    Holy shit they wear a lot of makeup

  • Omgedd _
    Omgedd _ 3 months ago

    Ahhhhh😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️ love this !

  • Stephany Gonzalez
    Stephany Gonzalez 3 months ago +6

    it would be great to have a version for siblings who are 10-15 years apart.. this definitely changes the dynamic

  • Dythanne Chloe Garcia
    Dythanne Chloe Garcia 3 months ago

    I wish I was this close to my sister

  • Patrick Notstar
    Patrick Notstar 4 months ago

    skindeep? I don't see much skin just foundation

  • danika mann
    danika mann 4 months ago +1

    Girl on the left reminds me of Shailene Woodley

  • Lillian Grace
    Lillian Grace 4 months ago

    This is the exact relationship me and my sister have! This reminds me of me and her and yeah sometimes me and her fight but other than that we get along so well and I think it's because of the things we have gone through together that's makes us have such an amazing relationship with each other.

  • Natalie G
    Natalie G 4 months ago

    They remind me of me and one my of sisters. We are the closest and we have an incredible amount of love for each other. She had an extremely toxic friendship and has dealt with anxiety and even though I am younger, I always tried to step up and help her through that and push her out of it at times; not fully understanding what she was going through. I could tell when she was "jealous" of me being a little more carefree (or maybe it was more sad that she wasn't able to be as carefree as me). Now we are older and have kids and I've dealt with post partum depression, and we lean on each other and have an even stronger bond because we just get each other. We aren't afraid to confide in each other about our down feelings, self doubt, etc, because we both feel it. We also see the absolute best in each other and tell each other ever chance we get. When she tells me she's proud of me it means the world to me, because I respect her so much and think the world of her. I know she has my back 1000% and she knows I have hers too. that kind of love runs deep and this video was like looking in a mirror at our relationship. Thank you for sharing your relationship with us, ladies! I'm glad you guys have each other!

  • G Shepherd
    G Shepherd 4 months ago +4

    They both are so beautiful in their own way and their makeup are flawless

  • Joshua Otuko
    Joshua Otuko 4 months ago

    There is a very strong and sisterly love between the two.The older one is more reserve where as the younger really understands her eldest

    NOC EGYRPO 5 months ago +1

    I love how they speak, their voices are beautiful.......

  • Milesgatman
    Milesgatman 5 months ago

    Sativa Rose anyone ?

  • Lorena ??
    Lorena ?? 5 months ago

    i wish i could have a relationship with my sister

  • Arianna Shrum
    Arianna Shrum 5 months ago

    Did anyone else cry?

  • Jessica Anne
    Jessica Anne 5 months ago +1

    I would have totally thought that the little and big roles were switched.

  • Scorpio Moon
    Scorpio Moon 5 months ago

    I have 3 sisters and I can relate. Being the oldest and doing a lot of first in the family did create some weird dynamics. I love what the one on the right said, sometimes it is just about being in different places in our lives.

  • Ammara Shah
    Ammara Shah 5 months ago

    Omf she looks like Kelly Clarkson

  • goodluck782
    goodluck782 5 months ago

    THEY have great smiles

  • Janelle Carter saw o
    Janelle Carter saw o 5 months ago

    She just said she feels like her sister doesn't understand her depression... Her sister then states she wishes she can heal the pain of her last relationship. Smh

  • noraemper _
    noraemper _ 6 months ago

    This makes me so sad. My older sister is spending a year abroad rn after graduating last year.. I miss her so much. It's just not the same at home without her, I miss discussing outfits with her, I miss listening to music with her, I miss talking to her, I miss her so much. We were fighting a lot and she hurt me often but I love her. And I'm scared that she will move out and go to college and I will barely see her anymore.

  • shaz dela cruz
    shaz dela cruz 6 months ago +1

    Wow its great and amazing to have a good relationship and bound to each other this is sooo cuteee

  • AshG321M
    AshG321M 6 months ago

    I feel they had a lot of arguing and fighting together but because they care about each other and love one another they come here to be able to understand each other more and more, and that's is nice, I wish I'm in US so I can so this with my sisters and brothers and husband ...

  • Ollie Oki
    Ollie Oki 6 months ago +3

    I don’t know if it’s just me but the sister in the black jumper came across as a little insensitive.

    • Stay Honey
      Stay Honey 3 months ago

      A little judgmental as well

    • Janelle Carter saw o
      Janelle Carter saw o 5 months ago +2

      Its not just you. I get the impression that she's a bit self involved and dismissive of her sisters feelings.

  • margarita Jackson
    margarita Jackson 6 months ago

    I would love to do this with my sister but I don’t thing she’ll be 💯honest with me

  • Sugari52
    Sugari52 6 months ago

    They are so beautiful in their own ways .. Pretty faces

  • Ash H
    Ash H 6 months ago +1

    They look like twins

  • Adnan A
    Adnan A 6 months ago +1

    I love how close they are.

  • h ta
    h ta 7 months ago +2

    Do they have social medias?

  • h ta
    h ta 7 months ago

    Funny how much I can relate to this with my own older sister!

  • kaitlyn gerckens
    kaitlyn gerckens 7 months ago

    They remind me so much of my older sister and I

  • Tee S
    Tee S 7 months ago

    I need to have a talk like this with my sis soon

  • Nish
    Nish 7 months ago

    They are both so extremely beautiful ughhh

  • Marisol Muniz
    Marisol Muniz 7 months ago +1

    is important to have a good relationship with your sister because of when you have kids or children you can pass it down and then having a good relationship with your sibling like your sister and brothers I think that's the right thing to do it's communicating....... God bless🌏🗽💈♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • Georgia Moore
    Georgia Moore 7 months ago

    Having a sister is the best

  • Esperanza Serrano
    Esperanza Serrano 7 months ago

    Buying this my next paycheck for sure

  • Anna K
    Anna K 7 months ago +3

    The younger sister is more like the elder sister but it's due to how open and vulnerable the older sister has been so that the younger could learn

  • Kelsey Nelson
    Kelsey Nelson 7 months ago

    They are both so stunning

  • Miss Payne
    Miss Payne 7 months ago +4

    There is no greater friendship and bond than a sisters bond. I'm so grateful for the relationship I have with my sister and blessed beyond measure to call her my best friend.

  • Arille loves Jesus
    Arille loves Jesus 7 months ago

    makes me miss my sisters even more! we live so far apart :(

  • Kay Mell
    Kay Mell 7 months ago +1

    this makes me sad because i have a sister but we have no relationship at all.

  • A New Love Official
    A New Love Official 7 months ago +9

    They're both beautiful and gorgeous as an individual and I think their is no reason for you guys to get jealous to each other.

  • Ianna Marie
    Ianna Marie 7 months ago +1

    Wish I had a bond with all my sisters like this

    • Charlee Brown
      Charlee Brown 7 months ago

      Girl me too! I've never been close to my siblings.

    A ORIGIN 7 months ago +2

    They are phoney...The younger one has a real think she is better than others syndrome..The other one is struggling with mental health issues and her MO is to latch on to unhealthy men just to have someone to suffer with her...while family disagrees on her choices and talk of her one way behind her back but they can't tell her how they feel to her face..They think she can simple "forget the past"..She is refusing to do so....She is the "typical black sheep" and she is not strong enough to change it...Sad Situations..

  • jermed2001
    jermed2001 8 months ago

    This is so true and so raw for me because I have a sister and from the few minutes I've seen this, I totally understand Amanda's side of the sisterhood.

  • WingMik
    WingMik 8 months ago


  • Christine Urch
    Christine Urch 8 months ago

    This is my new favorite

  • halalshawty
    halalshawty 8 months ago

    wow theyre so pretty

  • Sayna
    Sayna 8 months ago +1

    Someone sign up the Kardashian-Jenner sisterssss

  • ohhireneexo
    ohhireneexo 8 months ago +1

    I hope my girls are still this close when they’re older

    • Stay Honey
      Stay Honey 3 months ago

      ohhireneexo me too. Do you think that parents can help make their children close? I’m trying to raise my girls close but not sure if I can make a difference if they change when they get older.

  • Nelly Esendi
    Nelly Esendi 8 months ago +7

    Why don't I have a sister 😢😢😭

  • Hibernating Chibi
    Hibernating Chibi 8 months ago +4

    The older sister looks and sounds like Shailene Woodley!

  • Shay T
    Shay T 8 months ago +1

    I am going to see if my sister will do these questions with me😎😍 we are besties too

  • 𝘒𝘦𝘭𝘴
    𝘒𝘦𝘭𝘴 8 months ago +8

    I’m the older sister and it took a while for my sister and I to have a really good relationship & friend ship , but I’m so happy I have her in my life 😢 & my brother also this is making me so emotional

    • Stay Honey
      Stay Honey 3 months ago

      𝘒𝘦𝘭𝘴 are older sisters mostly jealous of their younger siblings?

  • Karla Barraza
    Karla Barraza 8 months ago +6

    My brother and I had a relationship just like this and then he got married and changed completely. And times like that makes me want a sister. I never needed one, never felt like I was missing one until my younger brother just closed up on me.

  • Lucy Servo
    Lucy Servo 8 months ago +210

    I dont have a great relationship with my sister. This makes me wish i did

    • Karrie Gutierrez
      Karrie Gutierrez 3 months ago +3

      Trying to repair a shitty relationship with a sister is probably one of the hardest relationships to fix because of the resentment.

    • Margarita 33
      Margarita 33 4 months ago


      MASUD KAYSAR 6 months ago +1

      Just show thiw to to sis hope she understand

    • h ta
      h ta 7 months ago

      Why do you think it's not great?

  • Andrea Oglesby
    Andrea Oglesby 8 months ago

    They are so cute

  • Tia T
    Tia T 8 months ago

    I love this./ being a sister has been such a blessing, my sister makes me a better woman and ultimately a better person for this planet. Yay for sisters!

  • liya lawley
    liya lawley 8 months ago +4

    Omigah yesss the depression part

  • RomoAndMal
    RomoAndMal 8 months ago

    Ah, I wish I had a sister too. 😔

  • Chameleon Ways
    Chameleon Ways 8 months ago +19

    I am in my 40s and have siblings who I have consciously walked away from. No fights, no falling out, I just don’t relate to either and am no longer interested in knowing them. While I don’t wish to ever have them in the remainder of my life, or to have had them be other people when I knew them, these sibling videos help me better understand the breadth of sibling relationships out there and give me all the feels.

    • Jailynn Figs
      Jailynn Figs 8 months ago +8

      I don’t know your story but it sounds like there’s a deeper unsettling feeling you may not have worked through yet. Best of luck.

    • kyra williams
      kyra williams 8 months ago +13

      Chameleon Ways this comment makes the parent in me very sad. I’d be devastated if my children didn’t want to be involved with each other.

  • Thea Daily
    Thea Daily 9 months ago +1

    This was beautiful to watch. Their bond, their raw emotion... Just lovely.
    I have a little sister who is much younger than me (20 years), I aspire to be this close with her despite our age differences.

    • 2014 S.Rollins
      2014 S.Rollins 7 months ago

      @Thea Daily Thank you.

    • Thea Daily
      Thea Daily 7 months ago +1

      @2014 S.Rollins Thank you, I appreciate that. (: I hope you and your brother get closer as he gets older.

    • 2014 S.Rollins
      2014 S.Rollins 7 months ago +1

      Wishing you two all the best.My youngest sibling's 9 yrs younger than me.It gets hard to bond especially if you're living in separate places.Everytime i go home i feel like i'm forcing myself on him cuz it gets weird trying to make a connection.Maybe it's different between sisters,so wishing you all the best.😊

  • P J
    P J 9 months ago +1

    Such beautiful girls.

  • nanana nère
    nanana nère 9 months ago +112

    The little sister looks very mature.

  • Meli
    Meli 9 months ago

    Such beautiful souls! 💕 They were meant to link together, love their strong and loving bond. 😍

  • Ginny Reese
    Ginny Reese 9 months ago +3

    Why does Sydney look so familiar?

    • Amanda Sanchez
      Amanda Sanchez 5 months ago

      The one on the right? She's a grown up version of Chloe Grace Mortez!

  • Victoria Brave
    Victoria Brave 9 months ago +8

    Me and my sister just like this. That’s my heart!

  • Shagayo K
    Shagayo K 9 months ago +7

    don't take that meddication mi amor

  • JuL EveningStar
    JuL EveningStar 9 months ago +88

    It is so great how the older sister shared about her anxiety and depression and what she said about her not thinking her younger sister can fully understand. Anxiety and depression can be debilitating. It is only when another person has gone through it that a person can truly grasp the psychological weight it bares.
    They seem to have a beautiful sibling relationship.

  • Diti Bhuyan
    Diti Bhuyan 9 months ago

    ugh!😭😭 I love my sister to death 💗💗💗

  • Ren M.
    Ren M. 9 months ago +141

    I thought the one on the right was the older one....
    That jealousy question was real.

  • Artavius Simpson
    Artavius Simpson 9 months ago +10

    Can literally see the layers on their faces.

  • sochuiwon priscilla
    sochuiwon priscilla 9 months ago +8

    this reminds me a lot about me and my sisters. i feel grateful

  • bossamusic
    bossamusic 9 months ago +16

    Now I miss my sister who lives abroad. We are not twins but we always felt like half of a whole, like she is a part of me..

  • Kiana Mcmillan
    Kiana Mcmillan 9 months ago +6

    Aw, I only have a brother ❤️

  • Namzie Mol
    Namzie Mol 9 months ago +1

    They remind me of me n my sister... This was beautiful to watch!

  • Rudi Makole
    Rudi Makole 9 months ago +9

    Whoa! The succession of the questions on this one threatened my comfort levels at first. Was that done intentionally Skin Deep? I like how with every reply a deeper connection between the two was revealed even though they have both been through so much. “I love you for you” seems like the best answer in the end 😊.

    • Maurice湯 茂 林
      Maurice湯 茂 林 6 months ago

      so it "seems"

    • Rudi Makole
      Rudi Makole 9 months ago

      Just rewatched. The effect couldn’t have been intentional because it was the replies that made the next questions seem sooo monumental. There’s no way the questions could have expected the junctures. I guess magic sometimes just happens.

  • lia
    lia 9 months ago

    Sydney reminds me of Khloe Kardashian

  • kivrin engle
    kivrin engle 9 months ago +5

    This makes me wish I had a sister

  • Lina Lodenius
    Lina Lodenius 9 months ago +53

    I would’ve never guessed the girl on the left was the older sister? Based on what was said, that was a shock for me 👌🏼

  • Danby Sea
    Danby Sea 9 months ago +11

    There are so many levels to this sistership there must be more to share. They should come back for a follow up conversation.

  • Mary M
    Mary M 9 months ago +31

    I really want to be friends with the one on the left..I like the one on the right too

  • Aries Candy
    Aries Candy 9 months ago +341

    "If I could save anyone, I would save you."

    • Shannon x
      Shannon x 2 months ago

      That’s when I fell apart 😂

    • Simply Shoney
      Simply Shoney 3 months ago

      literally cried on that part

    • Cookie Love IG:Banginyourmom
      Cookie Love IG:Banginyourmom 9 months ago +8

      I held it together pretty good lol until she said that... Andddd tearssss just came rolling!!! 😳😭😭😭

  • ONE
    ONE 9 months ago +4

    Clown level of makeup

  • Nina Yang
    Nina Yang 9 months ago

    Love this!!! ❤️

  • Serina T
    Serina T 9 months ago +29

    They're both so beautiful on the inside and outside!
    Love from England 😊💓👌

  • Charlene Tani
    Charlene Tani 9 months ago


  • Dalal J
    Dalal J 9 months ago +2

    That was way too cute amazing girls love that

  • E K
    E K 9 months ago +14

    Part 2 please!