I Found Out My Dad's Not My Biological Father Through A DNA Test • Part 1

  • Published on Dec 14, 2018
  • When Sam got her family DNA tests for the holidays, she had no idea it would completely change her life. Follow her on her journey to find her biological father.
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Comments • 2 244

  • Gonzalo Royo
    Gonzalo Royo 44 minutes ago

    So mom got some little fun

  • joe bama
    joe bama 2 days ago

    DNA CHANGES!!!!!!!!!

  • Laura Scott
    Laura Scott 3 days ago +1

    Parents are so selfish to keep this information a secret. That's NOT your decision.

  • The J-Man
    The J-Man 4 days ago

    The dad looks a bit like Randy Spears

  • Zach Blackledge
    Zach Blackledge 5 days ago

    The fact that this means so much to so many people and the fact that adoptees always want to find out about their biological parents tells me that the adage, "the one who raised you is your parent and there's no need to know more" doesn't entirely hold water in people's natural minds--true as it may be in practice. And I think the fact that there have been so many revelations of false paternity out there is a little dangerous to both the conservative social structure and to liberalism. Nevertheless, the world will never improve until there is more truth told and less deception.

  • Gerald Himmelspach
    Gerald Himmelspach 5 days ago

    By the way, that guy who worried about you, struggled to raise you, loved you and did best for you is your real father, not the guy who jerked off into a cup.

  • Gerald Himmelspach
    Gerald Himmelspach 5 days ago

    Just be thankful that the 1in 1000000000 chances through out all history of humans everything came together for you to exist . That is the magic.

  • G Al husseini
    G Al husseini 6 days ago

    Some left over spirm to make another baby.

  • luvsilly60
    luvsilly60 6 days ago

    Having a daddy that loves you is all that matters.
    Mom is darling

  • aiurir
    aiurir 6 days ago

    That was boring. I clicked on the video expecting her to be the only sibling with different dna than the others, so they would find out about her mom's affair. Then her father dies of a broken heart and a civil war would break out, because even though she was not of royal blood, she was clearly the most capable ruler and had the people's support for the throne. Now that I think about, I might have some unrealistic expectations for BuzzFeed videos.

  • slovak4life1991
    slovak4life1991 7 days ago

    Bro. One of my closest friends found out the same.

  • Kelli Motes
    Kelli Motes 8 days ago

    Wait, was that surgeon Zack Kornfeld?!

  • Charles T
    Charles T 8 days ago

    Buzzfeed is FAKE NEWS!!!!!

  • Donald Watts
    Donald Watts 9 days ago

    your father and mother are the people who raise you and care for you....period

  • billp4
    billp4 10 days ago

    Maybe someone was cuckoo for cuckold? Just sayin'

  • Cats3to2
    Cats3to2 10 days ago

    So when they help couples have babies this way, they don't bother to explain to them that they should tell the children when they are young to help minimize the psychological damage you are doing to them?

  • Ryan McLeod
    Ryan McLeod 12 days ago +5

    This is why I would never donate sperm.

  • Robin Fox
    Robin Fox 14 days ago

    You are so sweet. This made me cry tears of joy! Thank you. What a good story

  • OldAgitator
    OldAgitator 17 days ago +1

    Your Dad is your Dad. The guy on the other end of your DNA is just a sperm donor.

  • Acme Racing
    Acme Racing 18 days ago

    There have been lawsuits when recipient families do this. The fertility clinic usually requires a contract saying the recipient will not seek out the donor or attempt to identify him.

  • C-Martz
    C-Martz 18 days ago

    Fake father? not really when the man raised you. He's your real dad and you should had left at that unless a real dad wasn't good enough after he dried up. Who ever casted the doubt, that person should of told you the truth and not having to go through paternity test. Mommy is a liar just like.........

  • Brad Hamilton
    Brad Hamilton 19 days ago

    Okay But...Did you really need to tell the World your Ex-husband was shooting Blanks?? Hahahahaha

  • P V
    P V 19 days ago


  • alisha hatalski
    alisha hatalski 20 days ago +1

    people need to stop playing god,

  • jslugbug37
    jslugbug37 21 day ago

    God complex

  • jslugbug37
    jslugbug37 21 day ago

    It's usually the doctors sperm

  • Nasmera Nasmera
    Nasmera Nasmera 21 day ago

    80 percent of American's fathers are not their fathers

  • Nick Doe
    Nick Doe 21 day ago

    Haha, the mom was worried about German heritage? -- did she think their child would come out with a Hitler moustache? :D

  • Nick Doe
    Nick Doe 21 day ago

    You have a great face

  • thematrixman
    thematrixman 22 days ago

    in afew yeasr it gonna be like "oh i just found out i had sex with my genetic brother!!!,,

  • BacDoc121
    BacDoc121 22 days ago

    I was in my late 20s when I found out the same news. Different situation. My mother had an affair. After I found out I felt there was no reason to even tell the man who thinks he's my biological parent. He raised me. He was there from my birth till his death. Why would I tell him something that would hurt him. Theres DNA tests now so we no longer need to know our biological parent predisposition to certain diseases. Just take the test and remember it doesn't matter. What matters is you're here. I have no desire at all to meet my half brothers. Why?? There nothing to me. They dont know I exist and telling them would hurt there family. In short...your not alone. You seem to have a wonderful mom. Your family are the people closest to you. Not people you share DNA with. If that was the case were almost all related if you go back far enough. Hope that doesn't sound insulting. Not my intention. I've just lived your life and at my age...55. I know what's important to me. Hope you can find peace.

  • Calum Whittingham
    Calum Whittingham 24 days ago

    She’s a thot

  • Rose Virginia Butler
    Rose Virginia Butler 24 days ago

    People in the comments are crazy. She never said anything about cutting off her relationship with her real father, just that she was interested in finding out more about her biological father. You're seriously telling me you wouldn't be interested in sitting down and having a conversation with the person who gave you literally half of your DNA if you'd never had the chance to do so before? Give me a break.

  • Celtic Pride
    Celtic Pride 25 days ago

    Found out at 50 my dad was not my biological dad. Did a DNA test and found out much of my life was a lie . It’s tough going sometimes, we were very different and it was abusive at times . Getting close to finding my Aussi dad .
    You were brought into the world with so much love , and it’s obvious your parents love you . I’m embracing my new ethic heritage and the old one as well .

  • Ȼ Ƙ
    Ȼ Ƙ 25 days ago

    It's selfish to lie to your child about who their father is... My grandma was lied to as well. She didn't find out that the man that raised her and was the father of her younger brothers, was not her biological father. Until her mother DIED and her aunt finally told her the truth. By that time my grandma was 54. I can't imagine how blindsided she felt.

  • wldlvndr
    wldlvndr 25 days ago

    I feel bad for her...her parents are complete idiots and have no empathy. I'd go as far as calling them narcissists. How could they not think that it would be important to tell them, "Hey, you're dad is not your biological dad," FROM THE BEGINNING.

  • Padoshi
    Padoshi 26 days ago

    wow you like to travel . like everyone else in the world

  • Neverward -
    Neverward - 27 days ago

    A lot of puffed up opinions are flying around here. In the end who cares who lied to who and how "wrong" or "right" some element of this all was? These people feel good about it, they got over their shock from not knowing and gained a lot from the experience. They even got some small amount of youtube recognition (whatever that's worth) Can we just leave it at that without all the "SUCH BLASPHEMY!!" and just live our own lives?

  • D Adams
    D Adams 28 days ago

    The mother said "Just didn't seem to be a good enough reason to tell them". WHAT? Everyone should know who their parents are beeaatch!

  • Mike Skidmore
    Mike Skidmore Month ago +1

    Danney Williams Father William Clinton
    Chelsea Clinton's Father Webster Hubel
    Barry Sotroes Father Frank Marshal Davis Communist Writer and Pornographer who mentored Barry in Hawaii

  • Wael Fdhila
    Wael Fdhila Month ago

    nature vs nurture has nothing to do with this case, like seriously, stop repeating it like if it does.

  • BacDoc121
    BacDoc121 Month ago +1

    Same here. You dad or father is the man that raised you. That will never change no matter where your DNA is from.

  • Chris Jones
    Chris Jones Month ago

    These country based dna tests are about 50% accurate at best. Ignore them. They can just about tell you what continent your dna history is from. Big waste of money

  • L B
    L B Month ago

    Wow what a fantastic story.

  • Revert YT
    Revert YT Month ago

    Bit of an L

  • huyked
    huyked Month ago

    4:53 For those who can't read cursive. Shame on you!

    Okay, I'm not that mean. :) Here's what it reads:

    In Your Own Words...

    Why do you want to be a donor?
    *_I need the money._*

    In your own words, describe your personality and character.
    *_I am outgoing and very social. I am hard working and industrious._*

    What are your hobbies, interest and talent?
    *_I like tennis swimming travel skiing sports_*

    If we could pass on a message to the recipients(s) of your semen, what would that message be?
    *_be a good parent._*

    P.S. Teach your kids, and/or yourself, cursive.

  • Sam Phillips
    Sam Phillips Month ago

    The b**** mother literally said we didn't think that there would be a need to tell them what a f****** piece of s***

  • Dominic Berge
    Dominic Berge Month ago

    Why did she smile about fake having a secret affair 3:33

  • შრეკი
    შრეკი Month ago

    Name of the intro song ? please

  • William Lacombe
    William Lacombe Month ago

    What a tangled web we weeve

  • hebneh
    hebneh Month ago

    It never, ever crossed my mind to be a sperm donor, and now I’m glad I never did it! Now you can be tracked down.

  • jj.93
    jj.93 Month ago

    so??You want an award???....

  • Commenter
    Commenter Month ago

    i know someones whos 19 and his parents still hasnt told him that his "dad" isnt his dad.

  • Maina woo bin
    Maina woo bin Month ago

    Dr Brian hmmmm my gaydar is working.

  • sugi umen
    sugi umen Month ago


  • Abraham Navarro
    Abraham Navarro Month ago

    Wait so ur mom a hoe

  • Emma Evans
    Emma Evans Month ago

    disappointing video

  • Emma Evans
    Emma Evans Month ago

    bruh its a sperm donor who agrees to donate

  • IW Nunn
    IW Nunn Month ago

    Gay dad.

  • Zavier Mayo
    Zavier Mayo Month ago

    That title has me trippin I was confused as hell

  • Christy Smith
    Christy Smith Month ago

    When the tests 1st came out I wanted to do one but my dad said no and kept making excuses.. I found out in 2006 he wasn't my dad. I did find out when a medical emergency came up, I was in kidney failure. Then when my brother took one, they found out there was a sister no one knew about.

  • cfcreative
    cfcreative Month ago

    Having someone who is a good person and who loves your mom is huge for you.

  • Sam Arè
    Sam Arè Month ago

    She looks like Monna Lisa

  • JustinC87
    JustinC87 Month ago

    1:38 Random HUGE words. That was extremely shocking... lol

  • Tony Wu
    Tony Wu Month ago

    I Found Out Buzzfeed Clickbaited Me Through A USclip Video - Part 1

  • Anthony Butler
    Anthony Butler Month ago

    Preferred sports, travel etc are just as likely to be cultural, or even pure chance, as they are to be genetic in any way...

  • gopnjik suka mc bljet

    Local sperm bank you jack it we pack it

  • Jey Yoho
    Jey Yoho Month ago

    I am almost 60 yrs old. I took Ancestry DNA test and learned my father was not my father....life shattering..not sure it's worth it. I do believe we all deserve the truth...but sometimes the truth isn't very pretty.

  • Frisbee 'n' Cookies

    I strongly sympathise with this girl's father, he's been dragged on here like some heretic while her biological dad seems to be being treated as though he had an affair, made her and ran when neither was certainly the case.

  • ItsMeSophia
    ItsMeSophia Month ago

    wait a min.. she said she found out at 21, and then she goes looking for the donor afterwards. Then she was talking ab how the donor must have been 26, or 27. Like there’s no way the donor could’ve been 5 or 6!! wtf I’m so confused 😂

  • Alisa Henderson
    Alisa Henderson Month ago

    This is SO COOL!!! My younger sister donated her eggs about 20 years ago. She was inspired to do so because I have a very hard time conceiving, so she wanted to give that gift to someone, like me, who wanted a baby so badly.

    Ironically she could have no children of her own. I have often wondered about and prayed for my bio nieces and nephews out there. My sister and her husband adopted two sweet little girls. She is open to meeting her bio kids. I have the ancestry dna test. But have not taken it yet. How cool it would be to find them.

  • Al Engdahl
    Al Engdahl Month ago

    I can only imagine Dad is really hurt. He my not say it but he is.

  • wattlesong
    wattlesong Month ago

    Your REALfather is the man who stood by you and your mother throygh all the tough times, watched out for your health, happiness and welfare, and worked hard to maintain a sttable home.
    The other man is just a sperm donor. He did a nice thing years ago, usually for money, to help your REAL parents have children.
    Can't be bothered watching part b, but if it turns out he's an Ashkenazi jew, that means female children born of his sperm have a very high risk of ovarian cancer. Don't put off having children then.
    Maybe give your REAL PARENTS a big hug, and thank you.

  • Missing Artists
    Missing Artists Month ago

    Bro who ever said he wanted to be involved in the kids made from his sperm, some people just do it to get paid, not to have to meet everything that comes from it, it’s a bit disrespectful to go OUT OF YOUR WAY to find a man who could have easily not wanted to meet you.

  • Benjamin
    Benjamin Month ago

    He may be your father, but he ain't your daddy.

  • Jessie Showers
    Jessie Showers Month ago

    I know someone who found out doing a DNA test that their son wasn’t theirs real son and that his father wasn’t really his father

  • Jordan Rayford
    Jordan Rayford Month ago +41

    He was a sperm donor, you weren't adopted. This is ridiculous that you would try to interrupt a guy's life and possibly hurt the man that raised you to find a sperm donor.

  • Olaf falO
    Olaf falO Month ago

    Plot twist

  • peko peko
    peko peko Month ago

    & what now. He raised you.

  • Ella Kiely
    Ella Kiely Month ago

    The worst part about this is that they chose to keep it from their children for so long. It’s not something that should be hidden. My brother and I were conceived through sperm donation because my dad was infertile. We were told from a very young age (so young that we don’t remember being told), and it became such a normal thing. It didn’t matter that our dad wasn’t our biological father, because he was still our dad. But when you keep it from your children, you are lying. Imagine if your child found a partner that turned out to be their half sibling! I know someone that’s conceived through sperm donation and she has 47 siblings!! If you don’t tell your children, there’s always a risk of incest.

  • TT4Days
    TT4Days Month ago

    Can we take a moment to appreciate how chill the dude was . If i was a sperm donor I would make very clear on paper DON'T COME LOOKING FOR ME THX XX

  • Tiana Young
    Tiana Young Month ago +3

    How could you do that to your dad? The man who raised you, who couldn't have children. That's terrible that you put your father through that. I have no interest in knowing my sperm donor and neither do my siblings. My dad was the 1 who raised us. Not who out his DNA in a cup

  • MunkyChunk
    MunkyChunk Month ago

    22? She looks 30 at least.

  • violetAura
    violetAura Month ago +2

    7:06 - There were 8 pregnancies total from this donor. "I have potentially 6 or more genetic half siblings. I'm hoping to eventually find as many of them as I can". This girl irks me. This isn't a quest or a game, it sounds like she's interested in doing this for herself. What if these people don't want to be found? what if they don't want to know about the sperm donor? Stop interrupting people's lives for your own gain.

    • Karin Johansson
      Karin Johansson 15 days ago

      violetAura she is a collector. She is 22 and have over 100 globes. That is not normal for a 22 year old. She can't have been to so many places in her life. Now she wants to collect her siblings. She is not normal. Then when she has found them she gets on to find another thing to collect. Maybe men. Or she gives eggs so she can collect children.

  • Frau Star
    Frau Star Month ago

    I found out who my real dad was today 😭😢

  • Food Is my best friend

    Could’ve just gone on Jeremy Kyle

  • noqturnaI smh
    noqturnaI smh Month ago


  • Kiana Renee
    Kiana Renee Month ago

    I respect her brother

  • Jow bow
    Jow bow Month ago

    Sam I think really looks like Lauren a in the face

  • Embellishednailsnz
    Embellishednailsnz Month ago

    Your dads not you dad ummm ok that’s a slap In the face comment! Genetics doesn’t make you a dad. I don’t understand in a situation like this when you need a doner why you’d want to hunt down someone that just donated, clearly her dad is who raised her

  • Pikachu lover26
    Pikachu lover26 Month ago +1

    Wait wait wait did she say *hungry* instead of Hungary

  • Fourleafclover kingdragonkillr

    He’s still yours father

  • Sophia Gallagher
    Sophia Gallagher Month ago +1

    Haha at 6:37 I was like oh cool I’m from around philly too 😂

  • giannis34_
    giannis34_ Month ago

    its always best to tell your children things like this rather than them finding out another way

  • Nugget One
    Nugget One Month ago


  • Evening Sky
    Evening Sky Month ago

    What's cool about this is how she shares her hobbies with her biological father. It makes me think of all that my dad and I have in common.

  • Mr Watto
    Mr Watto Month ago

    I thought that when you have donated baby gravy it was all done all confidentially. .?
    My thoughts on this are, firstly the father may be left feeling sidelined. Secondly, the donors wouldn't want to be told "I'm your daughter"

  • uhh ok
    uhh ok Month ago


  • Gabriella Barquero
    Gabriella Barquero Month ago

    Wow... what's it like knowing your a planned child.

  • Mamma Kraken
    Mamma Kraken Month ago

    Blood means 100% nothing. My parents wete crap druggies. The people that truly care about you and love you. That's family.