I Asked My Mom 11 Intimate Questions Before It's Too Late

  • Published on Jul 7, 2018
  • Kane from BuzzFeed try to ask his Chinese & Vietnamese mom intimate questions about love, how to be happy, and sacrifices of parenthood. This emotional interview might make you cry as she shares her wisdom, positive thinking, and real life story of immigration.
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Comments • 14 818

  • Alaq Giboory
    Alaq Giboory 12 hours ago

    My grandma had 13 children during the war that saddam created...

  • ShayniBC
    ShayniBC 13 hours ago

    This is one of the most beautiful relationships I have witnessed in a very long time between any human beings (her relationship with her husband, her relationship with her son, and her relationship and outlook on life). She seems to have the answers to inner happiness and it can be seen in her serenity. The look of adoration her son gives her is truly precious. This is a video I will watch again and again. Thank you for this video BuzzFeed! We need more of Kane's mom!!!!!!!!

  • Amanda Smith
    Amanda Smith 15 hours ago

    Wow, your mom is a superhero! If only the current generation (mine!) could be like her. Be happy with what you have and don't complain.

  • PH Ang
    PH Ang 16 hours ago

    I make love with your father

    Oh wow my mom never told me that before tbh 😂

  • Romi
    Romi Day ago

    She is amazing. I’m in tears. Thank you for sharing

  • ACK Trịnh Tuyền

    they're Vietnamese of Chinese origin right? like Hakka or Cantonese? in south Vietnam it was like 60% of the population were Chinese. live there for 3 centuries. then the american puppet government made them take vietnamese citizenship

  • Min Suga studios Edits

    Why is Kane ' s hand purple (the tips of his fingers)

  • Billie Edwards
    Billie Edwards Day ago

    A mother's love, she is so precious and your family have so much to be grateful for. Seems like she instilled good values in you all. Was very brave for you to share....

  • longhairfen
    longhairfen Day ago

    Your mom is wonderful. You should be proud of her and make her happy. This video makes me miss my mom in heaven more. Thanks for this!

  • Rachel Pitt
    Rachel Pitt 2 days ago

    A great message for all. 💞

  • angel amin
    angel amin 4 days ago

    omg she is so cute! I got inspired to make schedules more often, but I always go outside!!

  • Mike Wang
    Mike Wang 4 days ago

    Why Kane’s mom is speaking Cantonese since she grew up in Vietnam?

  • Robert Smeagles
    Robert Smeagles 4 days ago

    Tons of respect to your mother & father and to you for taking the time to do this worthwhile interview. Great work.

  • when I think about the lord

    As a child of an immigrant, this broke my heart. Reminded me to keep moving forward and let my family know how I feel about them while they’re still here

  • Abhija Kala
    Abhija Kala 5 days ago

    You are a great human being. So is your mom. Your dad too... Can you give them my love n regards? 😊 From india

  • Anam Mansuri
    Anam Mansuri 5 days ago

    don't worry guys i am the one cutting onions here 🤧💜

  • min yooing
    min yooing 5 days ago

    OMGMGHJWJSJDBWUDN i love your mom she so funny fhjwamkrhdbduwm 😂😂😂😂

  • J V
    J V 5 days ago

    off-topic, but i absolutely love her accent!

  • Liz Henson
    Liz Henson 5 days ago

    Kane's mom needs her own series on happiness and gardening, she is so positive and her plants are beautiful!

  • Bevi B
    Bevi B 5 days ago

    All the time in the world to listen to this mom, i hope you have some beautiful adventures! I must compose some questions for my mum she too is a selfless beautiful soul

  • Bevi B
    Bevi B 5 days ago

    ❤she's adorable and what a precious way to make memories and get to know her more than ever before. So precious 👌

  • Juan Rodriguez
    Juan Rodriguez 5 days ago

    I’m a much better human being after watching this. Thank you so much for this.

  • alaya
    alaya 6 days ago

    You have great parents, they are greatful and I can see you have a loving family.

  • 박명선
    박명선 6 days ago

    Thanks for the video~everything that your mum said was amazing!!! Hope you and your family happy all the time.

  • XxNue
    XxNue 6 days ago

    This really helps me to "wake up" I've been negative for too long. All the hurt I've endured, ever caused. I need to forgive myself, and be happy like your mom! Such a beautiful woman, inside and out. She never once blamed her kids. I love it 💖

  • Boheme Dream
    Boheme Dream 7 days ago

    1. I’m crying
    2. People shifting in and out of their different languages is so special and beautiful
    3. For your mom’s sake, please teach her what “make love” means 😂

  • Nina Irene
    Nina Irene 7 days ago +3

    She deserves the entire world...

  • Jon Jacob Smith
    Jon Jacob Smith 8 days ago

    Awe. This made me cry. I LOVE these kind of videos.

  • chrisiel79
    chrisiel79 8 days ago

    You guys are speaking Cantonese. I didn’t know that was common for Vietnamese

  • sunnydiverhkg
    sunnydiverhkg 8 days ago

    Thank you for sharing...ur mom is amazing!!

  • SF
    SF 8 days ago


  • Nicole Bonetti
    Nicole Bonetti 8 days ago

    "Everything around us have the happy" to see the world through her eyes is goals! such an inspiring lady

  • Nicole Bonetti
    Nicole Bonetti 8 days ago

    omg! such a beautiful human! I love her

  • Chelsea Resh
    Chelsea Resh 9 days ago

    OMG sooo much feels!

  • chloe mankumbani
    chloe mankumbani 9 days ago

    I actually cried.. And as a foster child this motives me to speak with my actually parents... Thanks Kane!!❤❤ ..i actually just love your mum like for real😂😂❤

  • Koy Cookie
    Koy Cookie 9 days ago


  • Patricia Ferrara
    Patricia Ferrara 10 days ago

    This is so amazing..she is amazing 😉 ❤️

  • Courtnee Linton
    Courtnee Linton 10 days ago

    She’s so cute 😭

  • D Shak
    D Shak 10 days ago

    Beautiful video....

  • Marize Nunes
    Marize Nunes 12 days ago

    I wouldn't have a conversation like this one with my mom, maybe with my gradma, but i don't think my mom would be open enough about things... but that was so nice to waaaaaaatch! I loved it! Your mom is really cute by the way ^^

  • thebaejazelle
    thebaejazelle 13 days ago

    I love Kane's smile so much

  • Rachel MacDonald
    Rachel MacDonald 13 days ago +1

    she's not that old. She could do real estate!

  • ew no
    ew no 14 days ago +1

    "your daddy said "love me" and i fell in love with your daddy."


    can someone love me?

  • Kaylun Edwards
    Kaylun Edwards 14 days ago +1

    this made me cry 😩😩

  • Jenn Durham
    Jenn Durham 14 days ago +4

    Such a sweet lady! I love her advice and wisdom. :)

  • roland
    roland 14 days ago

    that's really sweet :)

  • bonzodamonkey
    bonzodamonkey 15 days ago

    Powerful... humble... true ..

  • jessica chong
    jessica chong 15 days ago +3

    Your mom has the most positive energy ever!!! ❤️❤️❤️

  • TysonIsKetchy
    TysonIsKetchy 15 days ago +3

    "10:10" "everything around us have the happy" ...and i sit here and get overwhelmed by the smallest things

  • Hope N
    Hope N 15 days ago

    Made me cry, got great advice, and fell in love with your mommy.

  • Island Princess
    Island Princess 15 days ago

    Live in the moment

  • Island Princess
    Island Princess 15 days ago

    She is beautiful and so adorbs. Love how she keeps saying, "Make love together." lol. :)

  • wikct2
    wikct2 16 days ago +1

    I love your mom. She has a very positive view for life and she provides that positive energy to others in the family as well. Thanks for sharing this touching and meaningful vlog.


    Don't waste time do a schedule 👍

  • Catherine Callahan
    Catherine Callahan 16 days ago

    Wow. Who needs fake movies when you can watch real things like this?

  • James Aguilar
    James Aguilar 16 days ago

    I was so emotional during this video you have an amazing mother and I know you know that, if you want to make a go fund me account I'd love to help make it easier to get a trip ready for your mother.

  • Selma Jamal Aldin
    Selma Jamal Aldin 16 days ago

    Your mom is so inspiring! Thank you for sharing

  • Diana García
    Diana García 16 days ago

    This is the best buzzfeed video. Thanks.

  • Tayler Barber
    Tayler Barber 16 days ago

    I love them!

  • Spooky Temporium
    Spooky Temporium 16 days ago +4

    Every asian parent: *When i was your age I had to walk 10 miles to school*

  • Jessica Cooley
    Jessica Cooley 16 days ago

    This video legit made me cry! it was so beautiful

  • kura kaufusi
    kura kaufusi 16 days ago

    ahahahahahaha awesome mum u have there

  • Isabella SwissRoll
    Isabella SwissRoll 16 days ago

    Gosh would you believe there was something in my eye this whole video😭.....you need to take your parents on a trip...they need to travel😭

  • Kat Brax
    Kat Brax 17 days ago

    Your mom makes me think of my late Mother and Grandmothers. She's beautiful, strong and delicate like the flowers she grows in her garden.

  • Beo the Orc Queen
    Beo the Orc Queen 17 days ago

    I love this lady so much, please make sure she is happy, calm and she travelled.

  • Kat Brax
    Kat Brax 17 days ago

    Oh I love your parents. God Bless your entire family.

    BRIGHTER DAYZ 17 days ago

    Please tell me you took this wonderful beautiful soul on a vacation ❤️

  • _phg_ anh_
    _phg_ anh_ 17 days ago

    Your mum is vietnamese? Right? Why she speak like chinese

  • Jasmine Pambukyan
    Jasmine Pambukyan 17 days ago

    Kane! This video made me cry, slime, laugh and feel sad because its soo similar to my parents situation. Thank you for this video it was just really sweet to watch and feel all this emotions

  • RoxxadaYT - Gacha and ROBLOX

    My dad was born in Vietnam, but he's Chinese. I don't think he's went to China either.

  • Jane Patti
    Jane Patti 17 days ago


  • SugarBabyT
    SugarBabyT 17 days ago

    OMG she is so sweet i hope that you're able to save enough money to take the whole family! Maybe as a Chinese new years gift?

  • Kia Smith
    Kia Smith 17 days ago

    I lost my mom in 2011 and by watching this it made me wonder if o actually knew enough about my her. Same feeling with my father who i lost in 2002. I am very emotional right now but thank you for respecting your parents and appreciating their hardships. May god bless all of you

  • Cait Paul
    Cait Paul 18 days ago

    My mom is a single mother and when my dad left he took everything but because my mom was so amazing she always made me feel like nothing was wrong and I never felt like I had a sad childhood. It's amazing how strong mothers are!

  • snakeufaceu
    snakeufaceu 18 days ago

    Kane’s mom is the definition of unconditional love

  • snakeufaceu
    snakeufaceu 18 days ago

    “Jungkook is whipped” yep the world will deco know it now 😂

  • Spencer Calvert
    Spencer Calvert 18 days ago

    Bigmama on sons you tube: A great time for all our citizens to watch how much our immigrants appreciate and give to make our country what it is. So many that are part of the so called “caravan “ come with little more than hope. it takes a special kind of person and we learn so much from them when we reach out rather then hold onto unfounded fears.

  • Have You Seen Chef?
    Have You Seen Chef? 18 days ago

    I’m surprised how enlightening listening to her has been.

  • Zeina Jammal
    Zeina Jammal 18 days ago +1

    This was...😪 my heart🙌🙈

  • Nicole Peace&love
    Nicole Peace&love 18 days ago

    She’s a beautiful woman

  • Colitra McCray
    Colitra McCray 18 days ago

    This video is a true eye opener. Goodness I am crying. Shows me that I shouldnt complain so much and be thankful for what I have goodness. Love you mom GREAT VIDEO

  • Mrs De Silva
    Mrs De Silva 18 days ago

    She is so wise and gentle. I'm crying just because she made me happy and reminded me to look forward and seek the happy moments in everyday life. Thanks for sharing your Mum with us! xoxo

  • Sara Hirsoveanu
    Sara Hirsoveanu 18 days ago

    on the first question,Kane almost died! lol

  • Slewenski
    Slewenski 19 days ago

    She may have lead a hard and poor life with little education but she sure seems to carry more wisdom and happyiness in herself than most people I've ever met...sure makes you think.

  • Nomad 1709
    Nomad 1709 19 days ago

    I adore the parents. They made a lot of sacrifices for their kids but did not get bitter or expect their kids to 'repay' them when they're older. I hope the kids will raise their children similar to this

  • Ohmy gosh
    Ohmy gosh 20 days ago

    Mr. Trump look at the people that make America great. This woman is a gem and an excellent role model. Not all immigrants have bad intentions some come a work hard and scrape by just so their children can make something of themselves. They're not trying to steal jobs they're struggling to survive but STILL immensely grateful.

  • Koi De Masi
    Koi De Masi 20 days ago


  • lolita cholita
    lolita cholita 20 days ago

    aww so sweet

  • Maritza Cintron
    Maritza Cintron 20 days ago

    Love her! So wise!

  • Lauren Sandman
    Lauren Sandman 20 days ago

    she is so sweet and so enlightened. I admire her!

  • Tahani Warraiat
    Tahani Warraiat 21 day ago

    This video will brighten anyone’s day!

  • Louis Tuấn Lê
    Louis Tuấn Lê 21 day ago

    The movie is very simple but leaves a lot of emotions. Life is simple and beautiful, no one can be so poor that they do not give each other a smile. Thank you for the life of a morning wake up still have a new day to love.

    Have beautiful day to you

  • rafi rajendra
    rafi rajendra 21 day ago

    Not tryna be rude kane but your mom sounds lowkey like buklau 😂, you guys are cute tho. I wish my mom wasnt always busy with her job, i am 19

  • John Connor
    John Connor 21 day ago +1

    Beautiful Family!

  • claire higgins
    claire higgins 21 day ago

    Will you go with your mum to China?

  • ArmouredUnicorn
    ArmouredUnicorn 21 day ago

    Take her to china and film it for us

  • Carina Francis
    Carina Francis 21 day ago

    I just want to say how inspiring your mum is! I’m now sitting here crying at how wonderfully she views the world and how much I’d like to be half that positive for my two baby girls

  • Carina Francis
    Carina Francis 21 day ago

    I just want to say how inspiring your mum is! I’m now sitting here crying at how wonderfully she views the world and how much I’d like to be half that positive for my two baby girls

  • ereed28
    ereed28 21 day ago

    Mom has me crying over here. That's a strong woman. ❤️

  • mrsazbill
    mrsazbill 21 day ago

    She's the most selfless mother I've ever seen.