Can You Be In Love With Multiple People?

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  • Fussy Puss
    Fussy Puss 12 hours ago

    Great discussion on polyamory

  • PhilVce
    PhilVce 13 hours ago

    I love myself & being a spiritual guy I love everyone too.. I believe that you can meet new people and have fun and love them for who they are and not "couples concepts", I believe in energy. Good Vibess ya'll 🖖 (ego sucks)

  • Roshni Ali
    Roshni Ali 22 hours ago

    Open Relationships would drive me crrrraaazyy

  • Brie DElia
    Brie DElia Day ago

    whoa. interesting

  • Leanne Marie
    Leanne Marie Day ago

    In the end you die alone... do what you want all in love. Spread love you free spirits. ✌🏻

  • Leann Djohari
    Leann Djohari Day ago

    love and possession

  • Melou
    Melou Day ago +3

    ....My thing is, how much are we willing to accept until we cross the line in a way that can't be reversed? Some things make sense. Other things, not so much. It's like every year some big controversial belief is being forced down people's throat. It was at the middle of last year where I saw polyamory really blowing up. Now they're talking about it on the radio, a lot of people on IG put it in their bio's now, and USclip keeps recommending it to me. Personally not my cup of tea, but to each his or her own. I'm just afraid that one day we'll accept something that's going to hurt us all in the end. Like what will it be next year? Pedophiles trying to explain why it's okay to be a pedophile? Don't even say, "oh, we'll never accept that...😒" because being gay and transgender used to be taboo and now a lot of people are accepting it. There are even a few states in the US where bestiality is legal. Just think for a second.

  • Lil Fix
    Lil Fix Day ago

    HAHAH!! Her reaction at 14:46 was perfectly in sync with my thoughts !! 😂👌

  • Alice Sullivan
    Alice Sullivan Day ago

    I feel like when I was in an open relationship I was constantly having these arguments with people in monogamous relationships so this was really interesting to watch

  • Halima Gonzalez
    Halima Gonzalez Day ago

    so coming from a polygamous marriage, I can see how you can form a relationship with more than one person, but it's not equal because you love that person for different reasons. Marriage fails mostly because of financial issues. I still beg to question how many people who actually stay married are with each other because they actually love each other or because it's convenient.

  • Captain OKZ
    Captain OKZ Day ago +1

    To EACH their OWN. Live how you want, do not impose your views on others. End of.

  • Hashtag Addictt
    Hashtag Addictt 2 days ago

    I only clicked because I saw Shan. . .

  • blank blank
    blank blank 2 days ago

    No cap idc who u are, if ur with multiple people ur a garbage person, a slut and a manwhore. Just cheat🤷‍♂️🤣

  • Nightcore Natalie
    Nightcore Natalie 2 days ago

    The black girl with the blinding nose highlight had really good points and explained her points thoroughly. Though I didn't agree with her. This also goes for the red haired girl I loved her points.

  • Nightcore Natalie
    Nightcore Natalie 2 days ago +5

    People use terms like "friends" and "love" really lightly, especially in Western Culture where saying "I love you" barely means anything anymore.

  • Nightcore Natalie
    Nightcore Natalie 2 days ago

    I think people use the term "love" very lightly.

  • Tea Tea
    Tea Tea 2 days ago

    I get very jealous when my best friend hangs out with other people other than me

  • Nichole Jones
    Nichole Jones 2 days ago +2

    I thought I wanted an open relationship but I hated it. Hate monogamy too tho so I guess I’ll just be asexual 😂😂😂😂😂

    • I love my cat777
      I love my cat777 Day ago

      Yeepp, totally agreee, 😂😂😂😂😂 being asexual at least allows me to be happy with myself and enjoy it 😊😊

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  • spaceheroes
    spaceheroes 3 days ago +4

    Everyone in this video is so attractive

  • BAZE
    BAZE 3 days ago

    Let me take a stab in the dark, in the polyamorous bunch the guy is gay, the larger lady loves getting plowed by multiple black dudes and the other lady lives with either a cuck or he doesn't care what she does as long as hes getting his nut busted.

  • Tien Tran
    Tien Tran 4 days ago

    The guy reading the questions sounds like a nerdy asian guy

  • Anniw Siatras
    Anniw Siatras 4 days ago

    As someone who dated a guy who was into polygamy it's not great for self estimate. Although he wasn't a good guy in general. He was abusive physically and mentally. He constantly compared me to other's and make me feel worthless. Telling me one day he would have a second girlfriend and that if i wasn't doing the things he wanted I would be his second hand girl and not his first. yanno what though. If you're all ok with polygamy then go for it, be you. Just like don't try to force it upon someone who's not really ok with it. Just like with anything else. I think everyone should do what they please as long as it is doing no actual harm. otherwise this was an interesting conversion to hear.

    p.s Not all polygamist are abusive like my ex. Most would probably mention that they are a polygamist from the start, my ex did not.

  • Dead pool
    Dead pool 4 days ago

    Who's here after kissa sins started to shoot porn!?

  • Mirna
    Mirna 4 days ago

    Monogamy is a set of rules set through million of years??? How dude it's biological it's not a social construct

  • Medd0ws
    Medd0ws 4 days ago +1

    The black girl says jealousy is wrong but cheating isn't

  • Medd0ws
    Medd0ws 4 days ago

    Polyamory is a mental illness.

  • Medd0ws
    Medd0ws 4 days ago

    Polyamory is a mental illness. I will go to my grave believing this, proudly.

  • Medd0ws
    Medd0ws 4 days ago

    I don't respect polyamory, and here's why. Polyamory is a choice, not something you're born with like a sexual identity. I'm sure 99% of people in relationships still find themselves occasionally attracted to other people. The difference between a monogamous person and a polyamorous person is that the monogamous person commits, sacrifices, and has self control to stick with one person. The polyamorous person is less concerned with "relationship" than with satisfying their personal needs , having their cake and eating it too.

  • Medd0ws
    Medd0ws 4 days ago

    Polyamory is destructive to society. It's frowned upon for the same reason murder is outlawed.

  • Medd0ws
    Medd0ws 4 days ago

    I genuinely hate polyamory, and I'm proud. Love is love? Hate is hate. Equally justified.

  • Destany Cunningham
    Destany Cunningham 4 days ago +1

    I am the same way. I feel guilt if i look at another person and feel attraction. I always have to tell my partner if i have experienced that specific feeling or i feel like i have kept something from him. Its annoying at times to have a huge concience.. but at the same time, it helps me have zero regret and to he a better version of myself

  • wendy guadalupe
    wendy guadalupe 4 days ago

    I do think poliamorous is possible but everyone needs to set boundaries, expectations and everything else, and in the top of everything remember that everything needs to be discussed. I've been in both kind of relationships and for me the best experiences has been those in wich I allowed my partner to be open in every aspect and I felt way more connected than that if I'd been to discard their opinions feelings and at the end their treat characters

  • mason62100
    mason62100 4 days ago +1

    I think a lot of people are confusing poly relationships with open relationships. Lol

    • mason62100
      mason62100 2 days ago

      +Meighan G A poly relationship is a relationship with multiple people that can be an open relationship or not. An open relationship means you can do things, generally sex, with someone outside of the relationship.

    • Meighan G
      Meighan G 2 days ago

      mason62100 please explain

  • Jasmine Tígre
    Jasmine Tígre 5 days ago +3

    Lust is what it is.

  • karthik rox
    karthik rox 5 days ago

    I'm okay with polyamorous people as long as they are open about this side of themselves as early as possible in a relationship. It should definately be mentioned before sex and ideally in the first few dates because the other person deserves the right to know what he's getting himself into and if he wants a monogamous relationship then this would be a disservice to him . Also , he might want to avoid STDs in which case, it might be a statistical advantage for the person as well

  • P J
    P J 5 days ago

    Before watching the video i am going to guess the big girl is in a polysomething relationship

    • P J
      P J 5 days ago

      I was right

  • Monica Rodriguez
    Monica Rodriguez 5 days ago

    I'm monogamous but watching tanas video made me understand polyamory lol I think it's completely fine and okay as long as every party is happy

  • Jacqueline Bravo-Trujillo

    3:54 Love yourself !!!!!!!

    Any army?

  • Angg Voagg
    Angg Voagg 5 days ago

    ..I have never Been single. 15 years old to today 35 but have never been able to stay “true” to one girl but I have kept the same 3 ladies with me.. threw the years.. yea they know bout each other even know each other but as long as I do what I need to do it don’t seem to be a problem..and I am territorial..and so is one of them lol much more so then me but all is good I think I’m both I luvvvvv my girl. .chic..😀

  • taЊa N.
    taЊa N. 5 days ago

    For me, i can't imagine poly as this "ranked" relationship, having a primary partner etc.
    If two person love me (very unlikely LMAO) and i love them both, and they love each other in a way too, than that's fine to me. If all three of us are willing to step into a relationship and share our lives between each other, that's ok to me.
    I believe you can be in love with multiple people. But i think there's different kinds of polyamory relationship.
    I don't know much about poly so i can't really say anything useful. This is mainly how i would imagine a poly relationship, if i were to ever find myself in one.
    I mean, the more the better am i right lmao
    Besides i was never really in love, more in love with the idea of love, so these topics always make my brain worked up lol

  • Just An Insomniac
    Just An Insomniac 5 days ago

    What about asexuality?

  • Tsubahi
    Tsubahi 5 days ago +1

    You would be spreading your emotional feelings/resources thin if you have more than one partner (and children, too!)

  • Jerry
    Jerry 5 days ago +5

    I don't believe there's a right or wrong either way. The only right way is the way that makes you happy as an individual.
    Ppl need to keep their "normal" out of other's lives altogether. Relax and enjoy life.

  • dannyka jolyanne
    dannyka jolyanne 5 days ago

    Im for the open relationship but not for the polyamorous.. or maybe it's just because I had never been in love with more than one person at the same time, but I can get excited by multiples peoples even when Im in love. I dont considered myself polyamorous but I feel that I can but it just not happen lol. I truly believe that jealousy is a kind of mental disorder. Hate me for this, that's how I am.

  • Reika Makoto
    Reika Makoto 5 days ago

    Just because most people have more than one friend doesn't mean that it is a point that supports polygamy. No man is an island. We need to socialize and that results from our day to day lives. Human interaction is inevitable when we meet people in schools, workplaces, and even in our own homes. Partners and friends as a result of socializing aren't exactly the same. People build stronger and more *intimate* bonds with their partners. People in a relationship are more open and honest to each other. They also commit to each other, hoping to share a future together.

  • My name is Human
    My name is Human 5 days ago

    But you only have one *best* friend. You can have more than one I guess but theres still that special one. It's not the sammeee

  • kaliman buda
    kaliman buda 6 days ago

    nobody is happy having one single person to love ... just as nobody is happy having one single pair of shoes to wear...attachment causes jealousy... let´s love one another.. but let us not fall in the trap of attachment ... control ,,and possession

  • Shayeli Sarker
    Shayeli Sarker 6 days ago +1

    Thank you God for giving me a man like that monogamous guy. I am blessed.

  • Emily Garcia
    Emily Garcia 6 days ago

    Amazing thing about this is, they all aren't wrong. They all, each individual is speaking their own truth. I admire such openness and honesty everyone is contributing to each topic of discussion.

  • Mikey the Robloxian
    Mikey the Robloxian 6 days ago +1

    Why can't we just all be lobsters? Phoebe Buffay says lobsters mate for life!
    Edit: although if you're in a bad relationship or you don't have a great connection with them, they aren't your lobster!

    HANA STM 6 days ago +3

    First world countries are just normalized mental sicknesses .

    HANA STM 6 days ago +1

    With these videos , why don't you gather killers and victims together to see how killers adore killing people...

  • Pia TWD
    Pia TWD 6 days ago +1

    jeez, if you can’t commit - stay single

  • Hannah R.
    Hannah R. 6 days ago

    What if you can’t have sex?

  • Vanessa Alvarado
    Vanessa Alvarado 6 days ago +9

    I don’t think it matters how many people you love, what matters is that all involved feel comfortable and loved and secure. Maybe being poly is for you if the idea of getting another partner excites you and makes you feel more loved and comfortable, maybe it’s not for you if you become insecure and feel unloved, I’m more comfortable being In my monogamous relationship because it makes me feel comfortable and loved and as long as that’s how you feel then the choice is yours

    • Some Random Guy
      Some Random Guy 2 days ago

      I mean where do the choices end? With touching kids. Getting your sister pregnant? Where does that it end?

    • Some Random Guy
      Some Random Guy 2 days ago

      Well poly people can’t have families. That will only cause drama. Sounds like we’re being fed crap so that we depopulate ourselves.

  • Ana Julia Franco
    Ana Julia Franco 6 days ago

    Okay, but you know that if you don't have a strong connection with your friends they are probably not your friends, right? I mean, if you can't fully trust and rely on them, if you can tell them everything, if they're not with you at all times I don't think you're truly friends. But maybe some people just have a low standard for friendship lol
    And about moving in together... there are roommates, girl. Just because you live with someone doesn't mean you know more about each other. The point of the polyamorous guy it's really important. About having a best friend and other friends and in polyamorous relationships it's having a primary partner and other partners. It was really well put.

  • Naia Meyers
    Naia Meyers 7 days ago

    Let’s just end it here. Who the hyuck cares

    • Anna133199
      Anna133199 6 days ago +1

      There are 13K comments. Obviously a lot of people care. Useless comment.

  • Noyoucannothavemywifipassword !

    That poly guy is soo pretentious 😂

  • Tricia J
    Tricia J 7 days ago

    I think everyone needs to work on loving themselves first and foremost.

  • whippedjaebum
    whippedjaebum 7 days ago

    This is one of my favourite middle ground videos because everyone is so respectful.

  • Shawn Jackson
    Shawn Jackson 7 days ago

    This was actually pretty insightful

  • Chris Boyd
    Chris Boyd 7 days ago

    The best line for me was at the end. ONE plus ONE equals three. The two ONEs are still there and separate, but they have created another unit that stands by itself as well, the PARTNERSHIP.

  • Hh Hr
    Hh Hr 7 days ago +1

    Std entered the chat

  • Karimah Vang
    Karimah Vang 7 days ago

    Please get Muhammad Hijab on here! He does religious debates but he’s very knowledgeable and I would love to see him put his personal input 🥰

  • V Shuzen
    V Shuzen 7 days ago +1

    It doesn't really allow for having a deep connection when you're polyamorous, it's the same with friends and hobbies, the more you have, the less time to go in depth. That would be the con for me. Sure you can have one main partner and hook up with others but i just can't feel comfortable without really knowing the person. Monogamy brings a bit more depth and maybe security, but at the same time i can see the polyamory side. I have lots of crushes but i don't really want to get physical or even enter a relationship, but i think it's natural to like multiple people. If you're an insecure person or really jelous I don't think it's possible to be poly... Ultimately i don't think i can be poly just cause i don't really like relationships that much... I like friendship more and i don't like physical touch unless i really know the person. Man i can't be casual pshhh I'm a party pooper but i can see polyamory and it's not that outrageous thing that people make it to be tbh.

  • Mos_x_Insan3
    Mos_x_Insan3 7 days ago

    So basically Monogamous is if the main anime character chooses all his harem and Polyamorous is if the main anime protagonist chooses best girl?

  • SJ Cross
    SJ Cross 7 days ago

    This was really interesting and very insightful.

  • The Infernal Hallows
    The Infernal Hallows 7 days ago +1

    If you truly love someone, you would put them over everyone else and you are willing to give things up for them; including other partners.

  • Jack
    Jack 7 days ago

    "Most people use the divorce ratio for why they are poly" im poly because im poly :|

  • Lindsey B
    Lindsey B 7 days ago +1

    The hardest things in life are usually the ones worth fighting for - they can end up being the most beautiful.

  • Desi Frisbey
    Desi Frisbey 7 days ago +2

    Bro I can't even get 1 guy, how am I supposed to get 2 or 3 or 4?

  • Neko Kat
    Neko Kat 7 days ago +1

    I've literally never dated so idk what would actually work for me but I vibe so much more with the polyamourous people and their answers than with the monogamous people even though I think that I'd probably be monogamous myself. Idk if it's just because I really believe everyone is different or it doesn't matter what type of relationship people have, but I really didn't understand the viewpoints of the monogamous people especially towards the beginning. And I hate that people make jealousy out to be an attractive trait. And I think if I ever feel like I'm not complete w/out my partner thats when I would know that I should get out of that relationship.

    • Satisfactory Bagelfreund
      Satisfactory Bagelfreund 5 days ago

      My suggestion, at least for a first relationship, definitely do it monogamously. Believe me, you have no idea how you'll really react to having a partner until you have one. And on top of that, don't settle for anything you're uncomfortable about. If you ever have a partner who says they want an open relationship and you're apprehensive about it, say no.

  • Dreadnaughticus
    Dreadnaughticus 7 days ago

    best youtube channel, the trump one had so much tension between all of them it had me cringing

  • dumb ellio
    dumb ellio 8 days ago

    these comments are full of disrespectful people shitting on anyone who has a different opinion. if you're gonna be rude maybe go to another video that isn't about discussing contrasting views in a civil ans mature manner???

  • a gamble
    a gamble 8 days ago +3

    Poly people lack self control I am the spirit in this body I control me my body will not control me it’ lacks discipline weak

  • Fan Base
    Fan Base 8 days ago +1

    I want to share my thoughts. I do think humans are naturally polyamorous. However, I am naturally monogamous. But the way I see so many people around me delve into relationships, I don't think it's natural to be monogamous for the majority. Also it's hard to imagine this is even a topic of middle ground. At the end of the day, you can accept someone else's natural state without choosing it for yourself. I don't feel like there are really "sides" to this.

    • crimdus
      crimdus 5 days ago

      Fan Base If you’re mono you cant accept someone whos poly lmfao

  • NZ Kiwi
    NZ Kiwi 8 days ago

    Loved this episode! Any time you have Shan Boodram on...I'm gonna watch. She is FIRE!

    CLEVASHEVA 8 days ago +1

    i don't understand why ppl are trying to rationalize jealousy smh. it's an inferior emotion that we all experience but needs to be checked regardless.

  • Purvi Jain
    Purvi Jain 8 days ago +1

    Please keep this series going...

  • Purvi Jain
    Purvi Jain 8 days ago +8

    It was such a well stated argument/disscussion i like how everyone was calm in explaning their views
    I can see what this world / definition of love is turning to
    I have no comments..

    SBLACKW C 8 days ago +1

    There is no other half. Everyone is a complete person. The married (only had one girlfriend) is wrong

  • Joshua 윤호 Han
    Joshua 윤호 Han 8 days ago +2

    How is this even an issue. If you’re in an open relationship it’s just means you’re confused about who you want to be with and shouldn’t be in any relationship

  • Liam Fiddes
    Liam Fiddes 8 days ago +1

    Jealousy is not a good reason to be monogamous because that means you are being monogamous out of fear of your insecurities and most decisions motivated by fear are not good ones. In a Polyamorous relationship you need to address and work on your insecurities instead of running from them. Everybody has insecurities, but they don't have to be things that stay with you, they can be overcome. Polyamory only works if you are not only working on bettering your relationship but taking responsibility and bettering yourself.
    Obviously this can be achieved within a monogamous relationship but so often that relationship functions on simple compromise rather than actively addressing issues and trying to overcome them.
    You can have everything you get from a Monogamous relationship within a Polyamorous one, and also so much more.

  • kira ann
    kira ann 8 days ago

    I'm poly, but I don't agree with what they were saying. They were really insulting to the monogamous people. At the same time the monogamous people were ignorant to the polyamory people. I just feel like they weren't understanding of each other. Some people like mac n cheese some people don't, it doesn't make anyone a bad person. If you want one person than good that's for you. If you want multiple people than good that's for you. Neither of the sides are wrong. No one is alike in this world.

  • Ramen Noodles
    Ramen Noodles 9 days ago +2

    Can we just accept each other? There is no "correct way" to love.

  • ikei98
    ikei98 9 days ago

    The black girl is really disrespectful and dismissive of everyone else’s disposition. She’s not someone I would want to have an open conversation with, because she is not open. She needs conversational skills without being so bullheaded and self assured.

  • Dad
    Dad 9 days ago +4

    United Degenerates of America

  • hana
    hana 9 days ago +1

    So polyamory is not about sex, but you have a main partner that you live with and have sex with, but you need to have other people that you have sex with, and those people are also your friends who you casually hang out with, but you can't hang out with a friend as a friend without turning it into a FWB situation...but again, polyamory is not about sex? Then why can't you just go out for drinks with a friend and have your partner fulfill your sexual needs?

    I don't have a problem with polyamory, I just wish they were honest about what it is -- you're emotionally unavailable, you want to reap the benefits of a monogamous relationship (splitting bills, living together, emotional labour from a significant other, stability etc.) without putting in the actual work. I think it's a fun experience and a good stepping stone (NOT necessarily towards monogamy) but it's not a healthy, long-term option for most 99% of people. I mean, be honest, have you ever met someone whose poly relationship lasted more than 3 years?

  • Douglas MacArthur
    Douglas MacArthur 9 days ago +3

    This is like putting up a video of *Pedophiles and non-Pedophiles.*. You’re legitimizing unhealthy and unsustainable sexual lifestyles Jubilee; and should be ashamed.

  • Haesty Kim
    Haesty Kim 9 days ago

    5:00 he looks like he just fell in love haha

  • RockyV
    RockyV 9 days ago

    People don't like to share their partners because it would hurt their ego. That's really what it comes down to.

  • Kaitlyn Johnson
    Kaitlyn Johnson 9 days ago

    Polyamory is difficult for a lot of monogamous people to understand.
    I don't think I really understood it until I was pulled into a poly relationship (I knew she was poly. I fell in love, and decided I'd try to make it work).
    Polyamory is very nuanced. There are many different ways Polyamory can look like. Polyamory is more fluid and catered to the individuals. There's not one way that works. And I think that's a big barrier for a lot of monogamous people to understand it. because what they're used to is cookie cutter by design and very rigid and inflexible.
    Polyamory, I think is not explainable in one video or one USclip comment.
    What I can say is that what works for one person or group of people isn't necessarily "the right way" to do things.
    Being polyamorous isn't like being monogamous. You can't approach it like it is.

  • D'Angelo Fulton
    D'Angelo Fulton 9 days ago

    I'm just tired of humans. Yall never satisfied 🤣🤣🤣

  • mlfez
    mlfez 9 days ago +4

    So you have to control your jealousy but you don't have to control your urges?

  • Noah
    Noah 9 days ago

    Another thing destroying families and children

  • karramia14
    karramia14 10 days ago

    I’m sorry, I just don’t think the lady in orange is mature enough to have these thoughts. At the time 18:36 she’s even like doing a little ‘dance’ and that just says like to me ‘I don’t feel comfortable with myself’ or like ‘I don’t feel like I’m ok’. Like I know someone is gonna day she does that to show how cool and how chill she is at the moment but honestly like a super chill person wouldn’t feel the need to be moving you know?

  • McKenna Raulston
    McKenna Raulston 10 days ago +1

    This one was one of my favs

  • Andrea Hitt
    Andrea Hitt 10 days ago +1

    Glad the one woman mentioned that open relationships are not the same as polyamorous relationships.

    • Shae Annalese
      Shae Annalese 8 days ago

      I have been looking for your comment so long

  • Olivia Garrison
    Olivia Garrison 10 days ago

    I’ve learned so much about polyamory just by watching this one video. I thought it was just all sex but I’ve learned it’s not. Wow that’s awesome. Hey polyamory or monogamy it’s your choice man whatever makes you happy and if it doesn’t hurt anyone in the process then do you boo!👏🏻