Calling my Mom to tell her I'm Trans 💙


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  • Ash Hardell
    Ash Hardell  Year ago +11521

    Boop, description says it all, so I'll just say it again - Explaining a non binary identity to a parent can be a scary and tricky task. People as me all the time for advice on the matter, but until recently I didn't even know how to go about this myself! Just a couple months ago I called my mom to tell her I'm trans. Today I have the privilege of sharing that phone call with you 💙
    Happy Valentines Day if you're into that! :)

    • Amber Lee
      Amber Lee 28 days ago

      Ash Hardell, I feel you...I told my mom that I’m les and she told me that I was still in she wanted me to change when I get older

    • Always Allissa rose
      Always Allissa rose 28 days ago


      FORTNITE GAMER 28 days ago

      Ash Hardell it's ok to be trans

    • CheezitLove
      CheezitLove 29 days ago

      At the beginning of the video I started to feel woozy, the middle I started to gag uncontrollably, and at the end I threw up.

    • Jack Roberts
      Jack Roberts 29 days ago

      Ash Hardell are you a boy or a girl

  • Lord Chips
    Lord Chips 20 minutes ago

    Hello. I would like some help because Well. . i'm 12. . And i feel myself a boy. . But my mother want myself to be REALLY girly and a real girl I mean. . I don't know,i don't mind SOMETHING girly on me but. . I feel myself a total boy:hair,personality,how i act,how i dress myself. . And i am really scared to tell my mother and my brothers. . That they would hate me and abbond me. .i love them and they love me but this might change so many things in my life. . My friend don't know about it,when they ask me if i'm Transgender i joke about it! But. . It hurts my heart everytime they joke about Transgender and insult them and ME at the same time. .I would want to tell everywon i know that i am TRANS i would like some help. .

  • Promos AJ
    Promos AJ 5 hours ago +1

    They/them are very cute ( not trying to sound creepy XD )

  • Nightmares Are Dreams Too


  • L Seabury
    L Seabury 5 hours ago

    Tearing to watch. Stopped watching 3/4 of the way. Gut wrenching to hear that a baby/child is involved somehow in this turmoil. Sincere condolences to this girls mom. Tragic what this world is turning.

  • Nancy Stevens
    Nancy Stevens 7 hours ago

    Don’t apologize for your emotions

  • Madison Uzumaki
    Madison Uzumaki 8 hours ago

    I’m probably in the middle cause I want to and I do look like a boy but I don’t want to completely be a male so I’m still a female

  • ÜŃÏQÜË PÖTÄTÖ 독특한 포테이토

    For my coming out story...

    I haven’t came out yet 😂

  • Strawberrysmoodie
    Strawberrysmoodie 11 hours ago

    What an adorable human

  • Jessica Smithers
    Jessica Smithers 12 hours ago

    Ash hardell can you date me sexy

  • Jessica Smithers
    Jessica Smithers 12 hours ago

    Ash harder you r cute do you what to go out

  • AnimeCutie 000
    AnimeCutie 000 13 hours ago

    Omg your so pretty! Oof that's awkward because I'm lesbian but still...haha anyway this video was inspiring because i haven't came out to my parents yet and i feel like watching other people come out it gives me more courage so I hope that I can do it to.

  • swaggerlord27
    swaggerlord27 14 hours ago

    I’m here to hate what you gonna do🤷🏽‍♂️

  • victoria zavala
    victoria zavala 15 hours ago

    Why u crying so much it makes me so sad to see someone cry

  • Lucy Barrans
    Lucy Barrans 16 hours ago

    I could never even begin to think how nervous you was at the start because in my house my step mum is bisexual I'm pansexual my sister is gender quier and pansexual and my step sister is transgender MTF and my other sister is bisexual so if we have something we have hidden for a while or we have something unusual to say we can say what ever because in our house hold its not strange it's just normal so I hope you eventually get that feeling where you can say what ever and be confident I'm proud because to other people that aren't in the situation they could find it strange and your scared of coming out because you might loose all confidence and that is what I was scared of I don't know how to end it but I'm just proud 😀😁😁😁😁💛💛💙💙👅👅

  • عبد العزيز العمرو

    🌼oh she is so cute🌼

  • Rod Powers
    Rod Powers 21 hour ago

    Well it's not for me to judge you,although I do feel within my heart that every individual has the right to be whomever or whatever it is that makes them happy within themselves...If someone has to live a life of unhappiness and lies,then really what life do they have...God bless you,and I mean that.

  • Qrows_Nest
    Qrows_Nest 23 hours ago

    You're so fucking cute, Good God this was so pure and wonderful to watch and listen to. Your mom is amazing, Grace is amazing, you are amazing. I hope future generations get to have the same experience that you have and look to you, your books, and your channel/videos for support and the best advice.

  • Sailor Gamer
    Sailor Gamer Day ago

    I am an 🏳️‍🌈 but I didn’t tell my parents..

  • Xiety
    Xiety Day ago

    *Reads title* I can feel the angst from here
    I live in canada

    • Xiety
      Xiety Day ago

      *After watching it*
      Wow your mother is AWESOME

  • Grapes
    Grapes Day ago

    AHHH this world sucks

  • Gabby xx
    Gabby xx Day ago

    Well done❤️

  • Depth Perception
    Depth Perception Day ago +1

    Trans is called trans for a reason. You present yourself as a gender that you weren’t assigned at birth, and feel as a gender that you weren’t assigned at birth. And you are that. You are a perfect lil trans person Ash.

  • Dalia's Animations/Animatics

    I love transgenders!!! I love everyone in the LGBTQ COMMUNITY!!!
    please don't think I'm weird for saying that.
    And I'm crying right now!! 😭

    • Dalia's Animations/Animatics
      Dalia's Animations/Animatics 18 hours ago

      ChantelDoesLife Only nice ones.

    • ChantelDoesLife
      ChantelDoesLife 18 hours ago

      +Dalia's Animations/Animatics You love the whole group because "most of them act different"? I'm a devout Catholic, most of us are kind, charitable and compassionate.(Some of us are monsters who prey on children and the weak) Do you love all Catholics, too?

    • Dalia's Animations/Animatics
      Dalia's Animations/Animatics 18 hours ago

      ChantelDoesLife But I love them because most of them act different.

    • ChantelDoesLife
      ChantelDoesLife 18 hours ago

      +Dalia's Animations/Animatics That's not what I said. I'm saying love all people in a generic, brothers in Christ way but not simply because they are trans or gay or straight or whatever. You'd be justified is being appaled if I said I hated all gender non-conformists and I'm saying loving them for that same reason is silly.

    • Dalia's Animations/Animatics
      Dalia's Animations/Animatics 18 hours ago

      ChantelDoesLife So I should just love only one?

  • kim cabagio
    kim cabagio 2 days ago


  • Kalani W
    Kalani W 2 days ago

    *_Well done!_*

  • Mari M
    Mari M 2 days ago

    Why are there so many dislikes

  • Springtrap The Savage

    Ash You are great and awesome and amazing

  • Kinsey Grace
    Kinsey Grace 2 days ago

    Thank you.

  • Links313
    Links313 2 days ago

    I'm soo attracted to non-binary people and I have no ide how to label myself. Is it still bisexuality?

  • Denise Glasmacher
    Denise Glasmacher 3 days ago

    The dislikers aren't good people

  • Aura Bean
    Aura Bean 3 days ago +3

    I ligit cried because i thought of haveing the same convorsation with my mom and telling her im a lezbian

    • / -FrostSepticGamer- \
      / -FrostSepticGamer- \ Day ago

      Aura Bean goodluck my friend i hope it all goes great just remember no matter what they will still love you even if it doesnt show.

  • Luxi Bean
    Luxi Bean 3 days ago +1

    I'm still trying to find a way to tell my mom I'm depressed......

  • 0
    0 3 days ago

    She hadnt realised yet?

  • Final Buster
    Final Buster 3 days ago +2

    Category: Comedy

  • Whistling Maniac
    Whistling Maniac 3 days ago

    So.. are you a man or a woman? You know, your real gender?

    • Agatka Grzyb
      Agatka Grzyb 16 hours ago

      are you asking about ash's biological gender?

  • Golm Gamer TM
    Golm Gamer TM 4 days ago

    Es español

  • Łëšłīė
    Łëšłīė 4 days ago +1

    I’m not crying, you are

  • River Kero
    River Kero 4 days ago +1

    God this is so vulnerable and I definitely relate. Take care

  • Rainbow Dash so cringyy

    Tིྀhིྀiིྀsིྀ iིྀsིྀ sིྀoིྀ bིྀoིྀoིྀtིྀyིྀfིྀuིྀlིྀ

  • Brady Alexander
    Brady Alexander 4 days ago

    I luv u

  • Brady Alexander
    Brady Alexander 4 days ago

    I'm am so proud of u

  • Kestalami
    Kestalami 4 days ago +1

    Watching exactly a year later
    I finally accepted myself as trans
    I was once a girl
    Now a young boy
    Thank you

    • Kestalami
      Kestalami 2 days ago

      +That_One_Sarcastic_ Jerk thank you

    • That_One_Sarcastic_ Jerk
      That_One_Sarcastic_ Jerk 2 days ago

      Kestalami I may not know you but I’m extremely happy that you could accept yourself and be happy! Congratulations!

  • Zachary Oliver
    Zachary Oliver 4 days ago

    ash, i'm not particularly a fan of you and i don't really agree with a lot of the things you say, but i just want to say how happy i am for you for how well this went. everyone deserves their parents' support and unconditional love. i'm so glad this went so well

  • Yakob Black
    Yakob Black 4 days ago

    Why is the title in German? I mean I unterstand German but...

    • Agatka Grzyb
      Agatka Grzyb 16 hours ago

      the title is automatically translated into the language youre watching youtube in

    • Yakob Black
      Yakob Black 3 days ago

      +Kill Me OK then USclip made a mistake

    • Kill Me
      Kill Me 3 days ago

      Yakob Black it's not

  • Becca Matthews
    Becca Matthews 4 days ago

    wow your one of the stongest and cleverest person i have ever watched

  • Mollyanne McDonagh
    Mollyanne McDonagh 4 days ago

    I thought u Were really really brave

  • Levi Rose
    Levi Rose 5 days ago

    Hi my names Levi and Im trans to and ik how u feel

  • Lolli
    Lolli 5 days ago

    One year and 10M views later...
    Still makes me cry every time.

  • iDanna Tube
    iDanna Tube 5 days ago +1

    One year later?

  • ABSENT !!
    ABSENT !! 5 days ago

    if it were me it would becalling me shedisowned me

  • Skye R
    Skye R 5 days ago

    So Ash I’m new to this channel so forgive my asking, but what pronouns do you use?

    • Agatka Grzyb
      Agatka Grzyb 16 hours ago

      im pretty sure ash uses "they" pronouns, but i might be wrong

  • _Vigilant_
    _Vigilant_ 5 days ago +1


  • Carmel Cullinan Mullaney

    Ha gay gay gay gay gay gay

  • chєlíσ ѕtudíσ
    chєlíσ ѕtudíσ 5 days ago +1

    Why only me that has homofobic parents that literally think that I'm a joke instead of having supportive and peaceful parents?..

    • Yeti
      Yeti Day ago

      +HappySmileyGuy :D what do you even mean by "the gay lifestyle"
      It just determines the kind of person you like
      It's not an entire lifestyle

    • HappySmileyGuy :D
      HappySmileyGuy :D 5 days ago +1

      chєlíσ ѕtudíσ That’s the view of religious people.

    • chєlíσ ѕtudíσ
      chєlíσ ѕtudíσ 5 days ago +1

      +HappySmileyGuy :D that's good, I guess

    • HappySmileyGuy :D
      HappySmileyGuy :D 5 days ago +3

      chєlíσ ѕtudíσ I don’t like the gay lifestyle or support it. But I will not be mean or discriminate against a gays.

  • Jemima Smith
    Jemima Smith 5 days ago

    Just wanna say i think you're amazing in everyway possible despite only seeing you for 13:21 minutes. Have a great day!

  • jesse neven
    jesse neven 6 days ago +1

    thats a girl

  • Kyda
    Kyda 6 days ago

    I want to be a spaceship mom

  • and the road to recovery begins

    I love your mug!!😍😍

  • Chris Pastore Jr
    Chris Pastore Jr 6 days ago +1

    I would disown

  • Chris Pastore Jr
    Chris Pastore Jr 6 days ago

    This gender binary thing
    Oh wait is this "imagination"

  • HowTo :
    HowTo : 6 days ago

    Ha Gay

    • HappySmileyGuy :D
      HappySmileyGuy :D 5 days ago +1

      HowTo : Transgenderism is similar to Anorexia

    • HowTo :
      HowTo : 6 days ago +1

      Sorry but there are only 2 genders, male and female, it is going to stay that way whether you want it to or not.

  • Fiona Pacheco
    Fiona Pacheco 6 days ago

    Wait how did her mom not know already??

  • Sterling McCord
    Sterling McCord 6 days ago

    Who is Grace?

  • Fire Raptor
    Fire Raptor 6 days ago

    why they look like a depressed grape in thumbnail

  • SOS Save Our Seas
    SOS Save Our Seas 6 days ago +4

    I was like your mom before I heard this. I thought trans people were only transitioning from one gender to the other. I am doing EXTREMELY EXTENSIVE research on LGBTQ+ stuff cause I support it wholeheartedly. I think that it’s cool the way you describe transgender people: that they’re transitioning or in the middle. That’s a great way to put it! Another thing I would add to that is that there are a bunch of categories underneath the umbrella name “transgender.” So like non-binary, genderqueer, etc. But I completely support you and I want you to know that you’re great. Even though this was a little while ago, I’ll still support you throughout the rest of your life.

  • Elisa Hoerth
    Elisa Hoerth 6 days ago +1

    Why can’t people just accept their gender!?

  • lost angel
    lost angel 6 days ago

    I think you are nonbinary but i don't think you are trans , but you feel your way

  • /くみい][KUMII/
    /くみい][KUMII/ 6 days ago +4

    I have to say,

    I'll probably end up stealing your hair.

  • i banged ur mom
    i banged ur mom 6 days ago

    This is so wrong

  • Mor Cas
    Mor Cas 6 days ago

    You have been disowned son

  • noot noot
    noot noot 6 days ago

    Calling my mom to tell her im straight

  • Gábi Slavíkova
    Gábi Slavíkova 6 days ago +2

    No nevím co říct Drž Se! ❤😊

  • ayla warren
    ayla warren 6 days ago

    u r actually adorable🌻❤️

  • johannapurplewolf
    johannapurplewolf 7 days ago

    Wow that went well for you

  • Holly Evans
    Holly Evans 7 days ago

    Im not trans but I'm glad you could express your feelings!❤

  • SportyN
    SportyN 7 days ago

    Why is this keep getting put in my suggestions??? I don’t watch this kind of shit.

  • SportyN
    SportyN 7 days ago +3

    Why are people congratulated when they come out as trans gay etc. literally you are telling us stuff we don’t need to know and we don’t necessary want to know.
    People are dying in wars, yet here we are giving awards to people saying that they want to be the other gender
    (And yes I said gender, which there are two of)

    • Agatka Grzyb
      Agatka Grzyb 16 hours ago

      i guess theyre brave in their own way?? idk

  • Let The X-Event Begin

    Everybody at my school knows that I prefer to go by ‘they’, but I’m too afraid to tell my parents so no teachers or adults have ever been told. This has been going on for almost three years, and I’d like to thank my best friend for sticking by my side for this entire ride.

  • Niif7y
    Niif7y 7 days ago

    you’re a bot

  • olijoskar2424
    olijoskar2424 7 days ago

    how can this video have 39 thousand dislikes
    have some respect man

  • Jaz Leah
    Jaz Leah 7 days ago +1

    ok I’ll be the only one here thinking she sounds like Ellen

  • Amilea Ply
    Amilea Ply 7 days ago

    This is the most beautiful video I have ever seen ❤️

  • Gabe 123
    Gabe 123 7 days ago

    Don’t y’all just love it that trans people change their gender that god intended them to be

  • Michelle Muskeyn
    Michelle Muskeyn 7 days ago +1

    I'm confused. I just watched a bunch of vids and you said you weren't a boy. Now you are? Lol. I'm confused. Pls explain.
    Never mind.

  • an bo
    an bo 7 days ago

    You are cute😊😊

  • myprofilepicture ismycurrentmood

    Ur cry makes me cry

  • Star fluff
    Star fluff 8 days ago

    Guys I think I flooded my house I need to call a plumber for eyes.😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • pretty girl vlogs coley

    5:43 and 6:42 are gross

  • pretty girl vlogs coley

    6:42 that’s so gross

  • Games for all
    Games for all 8 days ago +3

    Myślałem że jesteś z Polski xd

  • neil hambridge
    neil hambridge 9 days ago

    you are brave. you are bold. you are strong. you are beautiful. I love you.

  • Sade the Mask girl diy/other stuff

    Omg you ramble on so much but in a cute way lmao

  • Sade the Mask girl diy/other stuff

    Aww ok you just so cute. It’s hard I know (don’t worry I cried two) I came out being bi🏳️‍🌈❤️

  • Jae1353
    Jae1353 9 days ago +1

    If only I had such a close relationship with anyone in my family like this

  • Juicy
    Juicy 9 days ago

    Tf are u a boy or a girl

  • Disco Deacy
    Disco Deacy 9 days ago

    I’m proud of you! I’m super happy for you! 💕

  • Disco Deacy
    Disco Deacy 9 days ago

    Honey I can talk about scones for about 20 minutes too. What am I doing with my life?

  • Avery Jones
    Avery Jones 9 days ago

    This is so touching and inspiring.

  • Upasika Rai
    Upasika Rai 9 days ago

    She is so cute 😍